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The following text is an excerpt from the introductory leaflet of my lectures and experiential workshops on relationships of eros, sexual desire, love.
However, in this video there are just some thoughts about the deeper origins of the experience we call “eros” (“I an in love”) – se about my Program “The eyes in which I was mirrored”.
One basic human characteristic seem to be our need to transcend our boundaries
and instantly delete all our differences with any Other, diving in the intoxicating experience of eros.
In eros there is a figural element: an almost metaphysic sense of deep harmony and intimacy not justifiable by the how long and how much we know the Other.
Moreover, to the Other’s touch we feel our body re-configured; the Other instills beauty and power onto every one of our bodies’ cells; and a sense of sanctity spreads like a healing mist over whatever we do together.
Yet, in eros there are a lot of controversies.
A fundamental one, is that eros often seems to suffocate in longer and stable relationships, becoming even a threat instead of a vital force between life-companions.
Moreover, how is it possible that in eros, its ending is almost its only one constant feature?
Why eros is always combined with a kind of a sweet-bitter taste, an underlying sense of death, deception, loss, betrayal and disappointment, while at the same time, no matter its ending, it is so regenerating and refreshing with such an overwhelming life-breeze?
What is truly the loss for which the enamored is mourning with such heartbreaking tears?
Who are really the figures in the wedding celebrations of eros?
Who meets whom?
Is it true that time freezes for the prince and the princess on the moment of kissing at the “happy end” in fairy tales?
And why we do not care at all to see what happened thirty years after the brave prince woke up the Sleeping Beauty?
Anyway, in the extraordinary experience of eros (“being in love”) the feelings are very deep,
stormy, unbearable, extremely intense.
In eros we enter an endless field of eternity, having the impression that this paradise will never end, that it “should” not end.
However, is it like this?
Maybe the non-existence of eternal eros and the fact that every eros has an end are very “normal” facts, absolutely necessary to stay alive and able to form deep relationships of love?
*** “The Hereticals” is a series of live videos that I do in fb and I upload also here, in my web-page, as well as in my channel in You Tube.
*** All of “The Hereticals” are on concepts that I think are horribly abused by internet, social media and pop-psychology (love, forgiveness, interconnectedness, positive thinking, the power of our thoughts, etc).
*** I do not claim at all that what I say about such concepts is any kind of “truth”, I only present my personal approach.
NOTE: All of “The Hereticals” are based on and refer directly or indirectly to the theory and philosophy underlying Gestalt therapy and especially its existential aspects.