SHADOW: Table of Contents


i.1   What is this book about and to whom it is addressed​​?

i.2   A brief history, and a few words on the motivation and intentions of this ​​publication

i.3  The “sub-text” of the ​Quotations and other attributes of the book


********CHAPTER A*** “Shadow”: a first acquaintance

1.   What is the Shadow? ​

2.   More on the Shadow and connecting it with the concept of “​unfinished ​business”

​3.   Interlude: the self and its ​aspects

  3.a   The embodied primary self: the mysteries and the basement of “I am​”​​

  3.b   Consciousness: the penthouse of “I am”

  3.c   Self as the housekeeper of “I am”: its aspects and the importance of the ​​Shadow

4    The Shadow’s energy​

5.   The Shadow, and the delusion of fully re-living the past​

  5.a   The uniqueness of our moments​

  5.b   The past can become only a “model” for the present but not the present itself​

6   The power of the Shadow, holism, and self-organisation​

6.a   The Shadow’s effects in our course through life: an approach based on coral principles of “holism”

6.b   The threatening Shadow

7    Is the Shadow harmful?​

8    Living with the Shadow: can I get to “know” my Shadow​?

9    What might be the “self” and the Shadow of a relationship​?

10  The Shadow and the “inner child​”

11   What we cannot do for our inner child

12  An elegy for “mutated” ​children

  12.a   The  misfortunes of the monstrous and the ​​deformed

  12.b   “The Outsider”, or who is afraid of whom​?


********CHAPTER B*** What is the Shadow made of​? 

13   Introduction to Chapter B: The ancient and recent material stored in the ​​Shadow

14   On the distant origins of the Shadow: the eyes in which I was ​​mirrored

  14.a   The mother as a primary unifying “matrix​”

  14.b   The tremendous importance of the mother for the early construction of the ​​Shadow

  14.c   Creativity and the Hall of distorting ​​Mirrors

15   Interlude to Chapter B: Feeding the Shadow in adulthood and our “existential givens”​

16   Shadow, our uniqueness and our ​loneliness

  16.a   Existential and interpersonal ​loneliness

  16.b   Who is it that we would like to ​believe condemned us to a solitary existence​?

17   Shadow and ​meaning

  17.a   The meaning ​factory

  17.b   Meaning, the need for control and the ​Shadow

18   Armouring the Shadow when things insist on resisting

19   The Shadow, the relativity and ephemerality of meanings, the “fertile void​”

20   The Shadow, personal responsibility for choice, and the question of “​morals​”

21   The Shadow and the lower layers of our ​​nature: are we responsible for our primary emotions?

22   The Shadow, our differences, the rules that govern our collective ​life

  22.a   General systems of beliefs and ​values

  22.b   Fast-food meanings and their consequences for the reinforcement of the ​Shadow

23   Shadow and an ancient mutual betrayal as preconditions for individualisation and life​​​

24   Shadow and the one-way betrayal of ​death

  24.a   Everything is continuously built and subsequently deleted​​

  24.b   Death, futility, the unlived ​life

  24.c   Charon always ​triumphs


********CHAPTER C*** Attempts to isolate the Shadow

25  Introduction to Chapter C: Why do we tend to seal off the Shadow​?

26  The intellectualisation of experience​

27  Intellectualising through an over-functioning consciousness​

28  When consciousness displays excessive ​zeal

29  Indicative “signs” of an over-functioning consciousness​​​

30  The projection of the ​Shadow

31 “Assigning” the Shadow; the repetitive ​scenarios

32  Two ways of assigning the Shadow by using other persons, a variation, the ​consequences

  32.a   The two ways of assigning the Shadow​

  32.b   Combining the two ways, the variation, the consequences​

33.  An example of assigning the Shadow

34  Relationship: projecting and assigning the ​Shadow

35  The happy and unhappy end of repetitive scenarios in fairy tales, and in ​​life

  35.a   The happy ending in fairy ​tales

  35.b   The unhappy ending in life​

36  The futility of repetitive ​scenarios and of assigning to Others our issues with our Shadow ​​


********CHAPTER D*** The complementarity of Shadows and the darkness of a family’s ​Shadows

37   Introduction to Chapter D: The complementary Shadows and their marriage

38   Example 1: “No Exit​​”

38.a   The ​protagonists

38.b   The basic ​plot

39   Example 2: the abuser, the victim, a repetitive circle of blood​

 39.a   The abuser and the victim​

 39.b   The repetitive ​blood cycle​

 39.c   Starting ​over

40   Example 3: the ​conspiracy of ​silence

  40.a   Model 1: the voices of the father and the holy ​mother

  40.b   Model 2: the vampire mother and the holy​ ​father

41 The interdependency of complementary Shadows and the poison passing from generation to ​generation: or,  the architecture of the family black ​hole

  41.a  Transmitting the family Shadow to the next generation by teaching the sealing of its ​gates

  41.b   The parent’s self-sacrifice, the overprotected and broken ​child

42   The family’s manipulative ​mechanisms

  42.a   A few examples of manipulative ​tools

  42.b   Family ​secrets

43   The drawn bow and the obedient ​arrow

43.a   “Implanting” an order, drawing the ​bow

43.b   Fear ​​blooms

43.c   The prayer of the captive arrow and the issue of​ ​responsibility


********CHAPTER E*** Further aspects of the Shadow 

44   Shadow and the concept of “creative adjustment”

45   The Shadow and “the best I can do”

46   The Shadow itself as a creative adjustment

47   Shadow, guilt, and the non-​​existence of error

  47.a   The child who is always wrong, and the idea of “magical ​thinking”

  47.b   The adult sense of “error” as an echo from the Shadow and the roots of our adult need for explanations

  47.c   The non-existence of “error”​

48   Examples of adult magical thinking in order to cope with our Shadow

49   Relationship, Shadow and creative adjustment

50   The Shadow and the miracle of embodied existence

  50.a   The “lived body”, or what has happened to “I think therefore I am”​?

  50.b   Shadow, body

51   The Shadow and our sense of our temporal continuity

  51.a   The paradox of the continuous reconstruction of time

  51.b   The Shadow affecting our subjective timeline


*******CHAPTER F*** Dancing with the ​Shadow

52   Introduction to Chapter F

53   3 ways to avoid the dance with the Shadow

  53.a   The 1st and 2nd way to avoid the Shadow: (1) cognitive understanding of the Shadow and (2) “catharsis”

  53.b   The 3rd way to avoid the Shadow: The compulsion to positive thinking

54   Starting the “dance with the Shadow”​

55   The present as a solid background to our connection with the past, but not the past as a model for life in the present

56   The importance of “the paradoxical theory of change”

57   Embracing our inner child: the other, the alternative end to the happy end in fairy tales

58   The Shadow, a dish of fruit and a distorting ​mirror

59   Our story is our story: the inevitable cold that we sense when we open the door to our inner child

60   The inner child, the trap of forgiveness, and the inevitable encounter with ancient ​anger

61   The sensitive matter of apology and forgiveness

62   The trap within the phrase “I’m finished with that; this issue is closed”: the present holding onto the ​past

63   The dance with the Shadow as an improvised dance without established steps

64   The importance of the first steps: getting out of the comfort zone

65   “​as much … so much” – “stay with it” – “trust the process of change”


********EPILOGUE*** The Loneliness of Asterion

********APPENDIX Ι*** Existential angst, unfathomable depths, “the paradoxical theory of change” and the wisdom of Sisyphus

A.0   The purpose of this appendix

A.1   Life’s injustices and sinking into fathomless depths

A.2   Surrendering to the fall

A.3   The “experiential factory”: substituting “but” with “and”

A.4   How surrendering to the void might stop the fall​

A.5   “Trusting the process” – what could good or positive mean​?

A.6   The hallucination of the saviour

A.7   Sisyphus and his wisdom: a suggestion about acceptance

A.8   The real power of the “here and now”:  “I live” life directly and at the same time “I think about life”


********APPENDIX ΙI*** A few words about my approach PSP (Process-Stage-Praxis





The theme of this book of Shadows

is about how some aspects of ourselves seem to escape us and, even if they are non-conscious and non- mentally perceived, they are able to critically affect whatever we are doing or not doing at any moment. It is a visit “down there”, at the sanctuary of our moments and of our selves.

This book is actually a thorough study and at the same time a proposal 

about (a) the grandeur (and the drama) of how our experience is composed on both a micro (no-conscious) as well as on a  macro (conscious) scale, (b) the architecture of the Shadowed “home” of what is usually called “inner child” – who is not only sad but also very angry…

SHADOW: our silent companion through life’s journey

INFO: [378 pages]  [14,2 X 20,2 cm] ISBN 978-618-00-1371-9
1st edition in English: 100 numbered and signed copies.
This edition is published by the author and is to be distributed exclusively
in Greece or delivered in other countries only by order to the author:    +30-6977-210469    +30-2310-262872

A video in first person on the central
ideas of the book and its features

2 short videos (no-words) on the ideas of the



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