The limits of forgiveness | #10: The Hereticals / subbed


This 1oth video, even if it stands alone, is actually the 1st Part of my approach to the word “forgiveness” (the 2nd part is the 11th video). Forgiveness, for me, is a word that suffers much in our days as it is superficially conceived in the internet soup and the pop-psychology over-sweet salads.  

“Forgiveness” seems to be a very “hot” subject in our hypocritical  consumer societies.

In our time, we smile much and we like to consider ourselves “civilised” ignoring the tremendous and well covered violence everywhere.
It is by now a fashion to declare our tendency towards spirituality, even if this means that we are killing our wholeness by pushing away what feelings are considered to be “low”, “primitive”, “selfish”.
In other words, I think that we confuse what would mean to integrate the so called “negative feelings” with their elimination.
And, it seems that we forget something very important: that feelings are produced much beyond our consciousness.
When we mentally understand our feelings and we say “I feel this or that”, this or that feeling has ALREADY been generated in our being.
So, we cannot eliminate it.
What we can do is only to find ways to deal with it, to integrate it in our wholeness.

Why and when do we “forgive” – or wonder if we should forgive?

Is forgiveness a kind of universal value and who said so?
Why there is no sense in the fashionable suggestion: “If I forgive my abusers I shall heal the wounds they inflicted”?
Maybe the question itself “to forgive or not” is meaningless, because it is “heard” differently from different aspects of our own selves?

*** “The Hereticals” is a series of live videos that I do in fb and I upload also here, in my web-page, as well as in my channel in You Tube.
*** All of “The Hereticals” are on concepts that I think are horribly abused by internet, social media and pop-psychology (love, forgiveness, interconnectedness, positive thinking, the power of our thoughts, etc).
*** I do not claim at all that what I say about such concepts is any kind of “truth”, I only present my personal approach.

NOTE: All of “The Hereticals” are based on and refer directly or indirectly to the theory and philosophy underlying Gestalt therapy and especially its existential aspects.


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